This was originally from Formspring.me (yes, I signed up there too) but I thought worth putting out here too, since much of it applies to anyone.
You have said that you’re bisexual. Do you have any sex or dating advice for a young gay fat woman?
One thing I got from a friend many years ago: dating is stressful. Exciting, fun, but also scary. It’s best approached when you have supportive friends, a sane living situation, and otherwise have a life that works. Why? Your brain will do a much better job of figuring out if a new relationship is working for you if the rest of your life works. So yes, be out to your close friends. Have a home you are comfortable in. Those help.
Another good thing is to get to know other gay women in your area. Is there a gay or lesbian community center? Does meetup.com list a lesbian group in your area? If you work at a big company, is there a GLBT employee group? Is there a gay or gay-accepting church around? A gay pride festival? A scifi convention? Getting to know other lesbians may help you to find dates, yes, but it will also start getting you plugged into a social network. Maybe there’s no one at the community center you want to date, but you like the discussion group or stitch & bitch or basketball games or roller derby nights. Friends might introduce you to other friends who you do want to date. Or they might tip you off as to who goes through lovers like popcorn. :)
Finally … hang in there! Look for people who you enjoy spending time with and who seem to have fun being with you. Sometimes a friend will become a lover ;)
If you want to ask something on Formspring, I’m Living400lbs there too.