Living ~400lbs

Category: Sex

  • Dating!

    I’m Somebody’s Fetish I’d been married for years when I started this blog.  That may be why I don’t post about dating much.  But I ran across this blog post and it said a lot of things I agree with. [It’s] perfectly cool if you don’t find fat people attractive. Anyone who tells you that…

  • Quote of The Day: On Sex

    [Warning: rape] I had a conversation with a therapy patient of mine recently that spoke volumes to the problems of living in a rape culture that no longer wants to use the dirty word rape. She told me that she and her best friend (both 19-years-old) frequently endured sex with their boyfriends that involved heavy drug use,…

  • QOTD: Avoiding Pregnancy

    [M]ost American women spend the majority of their lives trying not to get pregnant. According to the Guttmacher Institute, by the time a woman with two children is in her mid-40s, she will have spent only five years trying to become pregnant, being pregnant or in a postpartum period. So to avoid getting pregnant, she…

  • Fat Women Shouldn’t Exist

    From a Jezebel piece (originally on First, Do No Harm) on troubles getting an abortion because the anesthesiologist doesn’t do patients with a BMI over 40: So not only are fat women not meant to be attractive to men and not meant to have sex, and not be able to get pregnant, when we do get…

  • On Being Fuckable

    Spilt Milk recently tweeted a link to the quote: I will not accept that my worth on this earth is based on whether or not you think my fat body is fuckable. I agree with the sentiment.  One of the things I’ve appreciated, as I’ve gotten middle-aged, is that random men seem to feel less of a need…

  • Sex or Thinness?

    Obviously it takes a certain kind of mind to ask 2,400 women if they would sacrifice a full year of sex to be skinny.  In this case, the mind works at  Fitness magazine. 51% of the 2,400 women said “Yes”. Now, I’m sure that some of those women interpreted “sex” to mean “sex with a partner”,…

  • Ah, Teh Sex ;)

    (Misspelling intentional!) Marianne posted about sex yesterday, and Red No. 3 followed up with a post today.  So, it’s kind of a blogaround!   :) I did a general post on sex a few years ago.  A few things I’d add now: At age 44 I have had more partners than the “average American woman”.…

  • Fat Birth Control

    A friend pointed me to this op-ed on making (at least some) birth control pills available without a prescription.   Generally I think that making birth control easier to get is a good thing.  I’d also welcome more research on the efficacy of hormonal birth control in fat women.  Plus something tells me I’m not…

  • Question: On Dating While Fat

    This was originally from Formspring.me (yes, I signed up there too) but I thought worth putting out here too, since much of it applies to anyone. You have said that you’re bisexual. Do you have any sex or dating advice for a young gay fat woman? One thing I got from a friend many years…

  • A Question for the Ages

    An obese child 6 to 9 had a 37 percent chance of being an obese adult if neither parent was obese. But if at least one parent was fat, the child’s change of growing up to be fat nearly doubled, to 71 percent. The work fits well with current thinking about adult obesity, medical experts…

  • Monday Morning Smile?

    Last week at work was much more on the stressful side than I wanted. Usually I pack up the week’s worries when I shut down my computer and neaten my office; this week it was Sunday before I really let go of the stress. Tomorrow I go back. So I’m going to include a few…

  • Mixed Links

    A nice piece on beating stress & angst Contraceptive pills may reduce or prevent muscle growth. From an article on being fat and fit:  As long as people see physical activity primarily as a way of losing weight, they are unlikely to keep it up, either because it doesn’t achieve that objective quickly or because…

  • Fat: The Anthropology of an Obsession

    I’m reading Fat: The Anthropology of an Obsession.  I think the book is trying to be shocking.  The first essay is about fat in Nigerian culture (good if you’re female, bad if you’re male).  Another is on the Andean legend of the pishtaco, a bogeyman whose objective is to extract fat from the bodies of his victims.…

  • Fat Women Have Sex Too!

    Researchers looking at women age 15-45 (divided into the BMI categories of normal weight, overweight, and obese) found a shocking result: The investigators found no significant differences among the weight groups in sexual orientation, frequency of sexual intercourse, the number of current partners, age at first intercourse, the number of lifetime male partners, or the…

  • Day in the life: Other nice ways to wake up…

    …and on the weekend we’re more likely to go for a more intimate option.   This post is about the practicalities of having sex as a very fat person and is likely not “work-safe“. If you’re at work, read it later.  Or if reading about sex is uncomfortable, please don’t read it.