So not only are fat women not meant to be attractive to men and not meant to have sex, and not be able to get pregnant, when we do get pregnant we are apparently putting our baby at risk because we are fat and if we don’t want to continue with the pregnancy, we can’t get abortions either because we are fat.
Fat Women Shouldn’t Exist
15 responses to “Fat Women Shouldn’t Exist”
People often think I’m being overly paranoid in my thought, but the societal dehumanization of a given group of people is a slippery slope. This is what was done in Nazi Germany and it allowed for enslavement of an entire race. I fear that unless we as a society are able to teach tolerance the future for people over a certain size is not going to be pleasant. We are already scapegoated and despised.
There are many campaigns to end the hateful stigmatizing of homosexuals, and THIS IS GOOD! But people are still allowed to stigmatize large people with no consequence. In fact the large people are often blamed and told if they would just lose weight they would not have to endure this.
I also love the argument that our size is a choice. Because I would surely choose to become a member of a despised subclass. Yep, I’m just a masochist that way.
Keep writing. Sometimes words from people like you keep those of us that aren’t so strong hanging on.
Fat women shouldn’t exist. I tried to write about my mother in law and her treatment of me but I can’t do it without sobbing. And that is wrong. Totally wrong. Nobody should be treated in such a way. She understood what she was doing. She hated me. Now she is in her declining years and she has started to understand that my husband and I are the only ones who will take care of her so she has started to be very nice to me. My memory isn’t fading though. The pain is still there. I am trying to forgive but…..
My late mother (who was thin, and despised fat people, and in my case, didn’t hesitate to show it to my face) did the same ‘making nice’ thing when her health started to fail. I have absolutely no doubt, though, that had I moved 200 miles and given up my job to be her 24/7 carer like she wanted, she’d have been just as verbally and emotionally abusive as she was for all those years. I was lucky that my brother, her golden boy who could do no wrong – also a big chap, but in her eyes men were ‘allowed’ to be big, women had to be ‘dainty’ – stepped up and told her where to get off. There’s a lot of coverage these days for the neglect of elderly people, and pleas for a return to respect for old age – rightly so, in many cases, but it makes it very hard to talk about those elderly folks who can be nasty and manipulative.
I always lolsob at the fact that there is no problem with anesthetics for WLS, but it’s a problem for any other form of surgery…..
Thanks for covering this. Someone alerted me to the story and I was going to write about it, only to find you’d already covered it. Thank you.
This has a lot to do with training anesthesiologists, I think. I don’t know how medical schools can justify not teaching their students to deal with such a considerable proportion of their potential patients. I understand and appreciate that general anesthesia *is* more risky and difficult in patients of size, and that you don’t want to force someone into attending a patient he/she doesn’t feel trained enough to deal with….but it’s just a fact that larger people are going to need anesthesia too, just like smaller people do. Why aren’t they more aggressively trained for that fact? Why can’t they see the medical ethics issues of not doing so?