Living ~400lbs

… and believe me I am still alive


  • “Ask for Jane”

    A good article on women who were illegal abortionists in 1968-1973. Some of the stories she recalls are heartbreaking. They reflect a time when access even to birth control was limited; when a patchwork of abortion regulations meant that women with the economic means to travel could find care in states that allowed abortion, but… Continue reading

  • QOTD

    From a profile of author Octavia Butler, regarding her death: “What happened with Octavia didn’t need to happen,” [Leslie] Howle continued. “Despite being the incredibly powerful person she was, she did not assert herself with her doctor. Even today, doctors discount women of a certain age and women of color. Some of it’s racism, some… Continue reading

  • QotD

    So my advice to women is this: If a man ever tries to use the Bible as a weapon against you to keep you from speaking the truth, just throw on a head covering and tell him you’re prophesying instead. To those who will not accept us as preachers, we will have to become prophets.… Continue reading

  • Music Monday: “Shut Up, Men Are Talking”

    To quote the artist, Brooke Abbey: I read this great article by Mary Beard: …and this fell out. We’re sick of your death threats And “We’re Not All Like That”s Make space at the table and open your ears Make space at the table and open your ears Full lyrics and download are at… Continue reading

  • Nothing to Prove

    The Doubleclicks made this video for their song “Nothing to Prove” using video clips submitted by friends and fans.  (Some of those clips are also being posted at, with more being uploaded.) “Nothing to Prove” song lyrics are on their Bandcamp site, and The Doubleclicks talk about making the video on their main site. The song… Continue reading

  • Kickstarter, Storytelling, and A Kitten

    People are talking about Kickstarter a lot.  Indie musician Marian Call, who organizes some of the most organized shows I’ve helped with,  organized a very successful Kickstarter for her first-ever tour of Europe.  And did the tour, and has released the live album that the Kickstarter promised.  Oh…and blogged about it. A lot of it comes… Continue reading

  • Naming

    Seeing discussion of women changing their names again.  (Sigh.)  But there is something is often NOT said about this, that I think should be: Practically speaking, it takes time and money to change your name. Social security office, driver’s license & car title – those are often the main things people think of.  If you go… Continue reading

  • QotD: Inauguration

    “It is now our generation’s task to carry on what those pioneers began.  For our journey is not complete until our wives, our mothers and daughters can earn a living equal to their efforts. Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law for if… Continue reading

  • QOTD: Avoiding Pregnancy

    [M]ost American women spend the majority of their lives trying not to get pregnant. According to the Guttmacher Institute, by the time a woman with two children is in her mid-40s, she will have spent only five years trying to become pregnant, being pregnant or in a postpartum period. So to avoid getting pregnant, she… Continue reading

  • On Being Fuckable

    Spilt Milk recently tweeted a link to the quote: I will not accept that my worth on this earth is based on whether or not you think my fat body is fuckable. I agree with the sentiment.  One of the things I’ve appreciated, as I’ve gotten middle-aged, is that random men seem to feel less of a need… Continue reading

  • Things to Read

    This is kind of a mishmash ;) If you’ve seen comments about “dickwolves” and PAX and wondered what it was about, JetWolf has a nice summary. Author Seanan McGuire addressed why fixing the US healthcare system is so terribly, terribly important this week.  Seanan has discussed why she needs health insurance here and here. Seanan’s new… Continue reading

  • Tweet Tweet Tweet

    Yes, I’m now on Twitter.  I’m tweeting about fat stuff and with fat people.  I’m also currently participating in #MooreAndMe, though hopefully that will end soon. Also thanks to Twitter I discovered Sweet Machine has a blog.  And a “Get Out Of Diet Free” card. …and yes, “tweet tweet tweet” started an earworm in my… Continue reading

  • On Acceptance

    Fat acceptance is about accepting my body, even though it’s fat.  It doesn’t mean that everyone else is automatically OK with my body. I know a lot of people don’t accept my fat. Some of them are quite comfortable telling me that it’s not OK for me to be fat.   Sometimes that bothers me.  But… Continue reading

About Me

Former software tester, now retired heart patient having fun and working on building endurance and strength. See also About page.

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