Category: Sex
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Dating!
5 comments on Dating!I’m Somebody’s Fetish I’d been married for years when I started this blog. That may be why I don’t post about dating much. But I ran across this blog post and it said a lot of things I agree with. [It’s] perfectly cool if you don’t find fat people attractive. Anyone who tells you that you are obliged to find any particular set of features attractive is…
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Quote of The Day: On Sex
[Warning: rape] I had a conversation with a therapy patient of mine recently that spoke volumes to the problems of living in a rape culture that no longer wants to use the dirty word rape. She told me that she and her best friend (both 19-years-old) frequently endured sex with their boyfriends that involved heavy drug use, painful and coerced anal sex, utter boredom for the women, regular transmission…
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Fat Women Shouldn’t Exist
From a Jezebel piece (originally on First, Do No Harm) on troubles getting an abortion because the anesthesiologist doesn’t do patients with a BMI over 40: So not only are fat women not meant to be attractive to men and not meant to have sex, and not be able to get pregnant, when we do get pregnant we are apparently putting our baby at risk because we are…
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On Being Fuckable
Spilt Milk recently tweeted a link to the quote: I will not accept that my worth on this earth is based on whether or not you think my fat body is fuckable. I agree with the sentiment. One of the things I’ve appreciated, as I’ve gotten middle-aged, is that random men seem to feel less of a need to tell me whether or not they find me sexually attractive. It’s…
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Sex or Thinness?
Obviously it takes a certain kind of mind to ask 2,400 women if they would sacrifice a full year of sex to be skinny. In this case, the mind works at Fitness magazine. 51% of the 2,400 women said “Yes”. Now, I’m sure that some of those women interpreted “sex” to mean “sex with a partner”, are single, and figure they aren’t getting any anyway, so why not? However,…
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Ah, Teh Sex ;)
(Misspelling intentional!) Marianne posted about sex yesterday, and Red No. 3 followed up with a post today. So, it’s kind of a blogaround! :) I did a general post on sex a few years ago. A few things I’d add now: At age 44 I have had more partners than the “average American woman”. At age 28 I’d had zero. At 30 it was one or…
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Fat Birth Control
A friend pointed me to this op-ed on making (at least some) birth control pills available without a prescription. Generally I think that making birth control easier to get is a good thing. I’d also welcome more research on the efficacy of hormonal birth control in fat women. Plus something tells me I’m not the only fat woman who found she had trouble inserting/removing things like…
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A Question for the Ages
An obese child 6 to 9 had a 37 percent chance of being an obese adult if neither parent was obese. But if at least one parent was fat, the child’s change of growing up to be fat nearly doubled, to 71 percent. The work fits well with current thinking about adult obesity, medical experts say. The condition appears to have a strong genetic component — most…
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Monday Morning Smile?
Last week at work was much more on the stressful side than I wanted. Usually I pack up the week’s worries when I shut down my computer and neaten my office; this week it was Sunday before I really let go of the stress. Tomorrow I go back. So I’m going to include a few things that made me smile this weekend. Chocolate: The Consuming Passion…
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Mixed Links
A nice piece on beating stress & angst Contraceptive pills may reduce or prevent muscle growth. From an article on being fat and fit: As long as people see physical activity primarily as a way of losing weight, they are unlikely to keep it up, either because it doesn’t achieve that objective quickly or because they think they have to lose weight before they can take up…
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Fat: The Anthropology of an Obsession
I’m reading Fat: The Anthropology of an Obsession. I think the book is trying to be shocking. The first essay is about fat in Nigerian culture (good if you’re female, bad if you’re male). Another is on the Andean legend of the pishtaco, a bogeyman whose objective is to extract fat from the bodies of his victims. But the one that’s boggled my mind is … Don Kulick‘s…
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Fat Women Have Sex Too!
Researchers looking at women age 15-45 (divided into the BMI categories of normal weight, overweight, and obese) found a shocking result: The investigators found no significant differences among the weight groups in sexual orientation, frequency of sexual intercourse, the number of current partners, age at first intercourse, the number of lifetime male partners, or the number of male partners in the previous year. Why, it’s almost as…
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